This is a random text from an anonymous source close to me, exposing the irony in our present day situation. It is here for your enlightenment. I thought it so simple, yet so profound an definitely worth sharing…
“It just dawned on me today… linking the word socialism and social media. Socialism is the goal of the radical left. This should really be called ANTI-socialism. Taking away all sociality: school, church, work, gatherings, sports, restaurants… to replace it with social media: an unreal and never ending deluge of false teachings, rage, malice, fake news, frivolity, light mindedness, crudeness, contention and violence. When there is a sensible comment it is abruptly removed. When the dark side is exposed, those speaking out are ridiculed and silenced. Abinadi was a prophet from the Book of Mormon who spoke out against wicked rulers and corruption and was put to death. We are seeing it in our day.
If we lose our first amendment rights to free speech, we are in real bad shape. It is happening right before our eyes. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I believe that the worst is yet to come. It will get much much worse before it gets better. The signs of the times are upon us in full force. We can be optimistic, however, because we know that Christ will come and set up a perfect system here on the earth that we do not now enjoy. After a milennial reign of 1,000 years, this Earth will become glorified.
We believe the same sociality that exists here will exist among us there (in Heaven) but it will be accompanied with far greater heavenly glory which we do not now experience. Click here for the scripture reference D&C 130:2. I cannot wait for these sweet reunions. But maybe we don’t have to wait until the next life to get a taste of what it may be like.
This week I was encouraged when I went to the park and conversed with fellow Christians about our current situation as we watched our toddlers play together in the sand joyfully. Everyone was so kind. There were no masks but warm social engagement.
I also went to a “sound-bath” healing experience with like-minded individuals. I was refreshed by the zest for life. It was tangible with the smiles and energy in the room. The experience was mind blowing.
We are social creatures. We need interactions. Otherwise, we are already dead, walking zombies glued to our devices instead of being present.
A piece of advice for myself this week…WHEREVER YOU ARE, BE THERE! Be present. Engage with others and watch the miracles of life unfold.
WOKE 2020 (my personal anthem for the present time)
They have me as a prisoner in my ownhome
I’m a slave to the system, “just take out another loan”
When am I going to speak up and be heard?
Deep down I know the truth but it’s being blurred
What is real and what is counterfeit ?
Pandemic or not, our way of life is hardest hit
2020 is when they came to shut us down
Evil looks just like a joker clown
It’s so obvious that many choose not to see
That they aren’t here to play nice, they are coming for you and me
First lockdown and then a mandatory vaccine???
This is the new normal now, it feels like a dream
Some may ask, what is the way out ?
Firearms, political revolutions, that’s not what I’m about
Truth is more powerful than a two-edged sword
Soon the King will Come and He will be our Lord
The world will be ours when He makes us free
He is the light that helps us see.
I am full of courage to stand up for the truth
Christ is real, I’ve known since I was a youth
And so now to the world this my anthem
They cannot hold my soul captive or for ransom
We can not be bought and we can not be sold
The fire for liberty must never run cold
Feel it in your heart and in your chest
Today you choose freedom instead of following the rest
Whose side are you on in the war between good and evil for this world? it’s time to start standing up for our God-given rights. There are only two paths, the path of Christ or the path of the devil.
So today you have a choice
To choose Christ is to choose freedom.
What does that look like? Let me paint you a picture.
Choose gratitude despite hardship. Choose to be positive and serve others. Choose to be self-sufficient. Choose to block evil. Choose to live free from addiction. Choose to be honest. Choose to own your mistakes. Choose to be vulnerable and full of love. Choose to seek wisdom but only from God above.
My rule for my posts is that I only write when I feel inspired to do so. My blog’s purpose is not public attention. I write so that humble followers of Christ will know that they are not alone. I don’t mind being open about my life and sharing for the benefit of others. I also gain from being able to share what is in my heart as well. When the Lord blesses me I feel an intense desire to share what is in my heart. I guess it is the missionary spirit inside of me. I don’t know all of the reasons I need to start blogging again but I know it is time.
One of my favorite scriptures is D&C 62:3 which reads,
“Nevertheless, ye are blessed, for the testimony which ye have borne is recorded in heaven for the angels to look upon; and they rejoice over you, and your sins are forgiven you.”
My blog is a sort of personal/public online journal. I love to rejoice with others in the promises of the gospel. I love to think about angels recording our testimonies in heaven. I also love the promise that if we share our testimonies our sins are forgiven. Just like all of you I am a sinner. We live in a fallen world and none of us are perfect. I feel like the phrases we use, “I’m not perfect,” or “nobody is perfect” are too soft to describe ourselves.
I prefer instead to not beat around the bush and admit that I am a sinner. My shortcomings and weaknesses often lead to sin. We are all sinners. There are thousands of ways to sin. We even sin with our thoughts. I feel like sometimes we aren’t doing the big sins and so we think we are fine. Yet many of us are sinning daily through more subtle ways…envy, contention, fear, resentments, judgements and pride, just to name a few. I find that is in the broken-hearted confession of sin that I truly find my Savior. We all need him everyday. We all need repentance everyday. Despite my weakness, shortcomings and sin, I am a man of hope in my Savior. I love to share the optimism that is inside of me. I love to inspire others to the same hope. Because Christ came and paid the ultimate price, we don’t have to remain sinners. We can come unto him and he will change us for the better over time. He will make us like him if we let him.
The main reason I have put my blog on hold for so long is because I want to be a man who practices what he preaches, no questions asked. I have always maintained a very strong testimony of the gospel despite my struggles. I don’t hesitate to declare the truth, yet I want the truth to be validated with who I am as a person. Without personal worthiness, our words are just words with no authority. Certain life circumstances exposed a major weakness of mine that I needed to eradicate from my life. I didn’t feel comfortable continuing to write about spiritual things when I was hurting. The Lord needs His servants and teachers to be clean and authentic. I had to put much of my personal life on hold until the weakness of mine was developed into a strength. Thanks to the sacrifice of the Savior of the world I can say without a doubt that I am a new person in Christ. I am now free from the weakness that was eating away at my soul. By turning to the Lord to overcome my weakness, He did the most incredible thing. Not only did he free me from my weakness but he gave me a complete life overhaul. Together the Savior and I embarked on a long and difficult journey to become someone new. I wanted to become the person I always dreamed of becoming but didn’t know how. The result was that the Lord gave me a whole new world and has taken me to heights I never could have reached alone.
In fact, I am no longer physically alone either. I want to share with you all the exciting changes that have come about in just a short couple years. I was married for time and all eternity in the Gilbert, Arizona temple on May 30th, 2105 to Jessica Lee Peterson.
We went on our honeymoon to Kauai and then came home only to load up a big moving van and trek up north to Bozeman, Montana. Other exciting news is that I turned 30 on May 21st, 2015 and graduated dental school on May 28th!!! I obtained a dental license to practice in Montana shortly after graduation. It’s all been a bit of a blur to say the least!
I have been working here in Montana for Dr. Dean Mortensen DDS. He went to dental school with my Dad at the University of Nebraska, Lincoln. I feel like I am living the dream but it is just the beginning. All of this I owe to my Savior Jesus Christ. I could not do this alone. I needed Him. While crossing the Montana State border on our way up here I was listening to music on shuffle. At that very moment I saw the sign the song “I’ll Go Where You Want Me to Go” came on. My eyes swelled with tears of joy. I know that we are in the right place and that the Lord is watching over us. Montana summertime is when the bears are out of hibernation. So is my blog…I am very excited to be back to blogging!
I want to share Jessica and I’s story that I wrote before we got married for the wedding website but not sure that anyone got a chance to read it.
The year was 2013…I had given up hope in finding someone to marry. I was down in the dumps. I had seen almost all of my younger siblings and then friend after friend find their eternal companion and happiness. I was single and very good at that lifestyle. Right after my mission I dated to get married but it didn’t work out. I dated a lot and made mistakes. I had some long relationships but nothing ever stuck. I was frustrated and I was exhausted. I was so totally alone. I got on my knees and said one of the most sincere prayers of my life. I acknowledged my weakness and pleaded with Heavenly Father that I could find someone to be by my side. I told Heavenly Father that I didn’t need to get married, but if I could just meet someone…I would be eternally grateful.
I was pretty down but that prayer was one of humility and faith. On my own I was stumbling and made a mess of my life. There was a glimmer of hope though that maybe God could do something that I could not do for myself. All it takes is one person right? The problem with marriage and dating is that a lot of it is timing and agency that makes all the difference. A popular analogy is that finding someone to marry is like finding someone to sit down and play a duet with you at the piano. You may be playing beautiful music by yourself but marriage takes two, and you can’t force anyone to sit down and play.
I wanted someone to harmonize with… little did I know what was on the horizon.
God answered my sincere prayer. After meeting her, The Holy Spirit continued to whisper the name Jessica to my mind over and over. Anytime I thought about who to date or what I should be doing the thought, “cling to Jessica” kept coming to my head. Jessica and I met in the Scottsdale YSA singles ward at the 56th street and Camelback church building. The first time I saw her sitting in church I told myself I needed to get to know that girl no matter what. I saw her from across the chapel sitting alone and she lit up the entire building! I will be honest it was her good looks that made me interested initially. Her smile is priceless and she is a drop dead gorgeous tall blonde with beautiful blue eyes. Apparently we were both in Mexico for a sand volleyball tournament at the same time but didn’t talk to each other. I had a friend who kept telling me to meet and talk to this girl that he thought we would be a perfect Mormon match. I connected it as the girl from church so I made a point to talk to Jess. After Sunday school the Sunday after Mexico I introduced myself. I was pretty nervous. The conversation was brief and I am sure I fumbled with my words but at least it was a start.
Then all of a sudden she disappeared before I could even inquire more. I thought that she was “ward hopping” or maybe inactive. Could a girl who is that good-looking really be active in our ward? I found out later she left to San Francisco for a month or two so she wasn’t a rebel. I was so curious. Then all of a sudden she was back! I told myself I had to go talk to her but I’m not going to lie I was pretty skeptical. Dating in the singles scene for so long I feel like I have heard and seen it all. Could she really be the real deal? I wanted to play it cool. We chatted briefly after sacrament but she was surrounded with friends and I thought at least that was a good sign that she had lots of friends in the ward.
I asked our mutual friend Brook Dorf about her because I wanted to do my research before I started to pursue. I will be honest I was pretty much just working on myself at that time so the thought of being in a relationship was terrifying. Brook told me she loved Jess and that she was one of her all time favorite people and that she wasn’t going to tell me anything. She told me if I wanted to get to know her I had to ask her myself. I was up to the challenge.
After sacrament I went up to her again and pretended to forget her name trying to act like I didn’t care. I don’t think my strategy worked I don’t know. She called me out on it. My theory was that girls like her get all kinds of attention all the time so might as well not be another one of “those” guys. We sat by each other during a combined Sunday school and we found out we both played the trumpet back in the day and both lived in the same 3 states but simply never crossed paths. I couldn’t play it cool anymore. I let out my real personality and we were just talking and laughing and being silly.
I was feeling it so I made sure she was going to be at social event at our friend Jimmy’s house in Fountain Valley that night. Some of us were getting together for games. She showed up in an ASU t-shirt and no make up which she claims was to make it so I didn’t like her. This backfired on her because I loved how down to earth and naturally beautiful she was. At the time I was on a technology fast and so when we were about to leave I asked her for her number and she said but you don’t have a phone…I replied, but I have a pen! She wrote her number on my hand old school style. I thought it was pretty smooth and unique. I went home right away and wrote it down.
What ensued was some back and forth of group hang outs and a casual friendship. We both knew we liked each other but we were both slow playing it and being safe. Calling each other friends with an asterisk was easy enough. I took her to Coconuts, one of my favorite fish taco places in North Scottsdale, and to the movie the Lone Ranger. We held hands and it just felt natural. It freaked me out because this was one of those relationships I knew could go the distance. We had so much fun organizing group activities and going on trips. We would stay up late talking and we were annoying because even though we were in a group it was like we were on dates with others just tagging along. Around this time my car had no AC in Phoenix and this means death. I took it to the shop and was without a car for a while. Jess and I would carpool to church activities, FHE and institute. I was falling for her fast. She wanted to come watch me play basketball and that made my world. She is so thoughtful and caring. She is so carefree and has an even more beautiful inside than outside… as if that was humanly possible. She was like an angel to me and a gift that came at the perfect time.
(my sister Amy, Jess and I not very long after we met)
The more I got to know the more I loved. Her personality is contagious…carefree and hilarious. She is a closet genius and very spiritual. She has such a loving heart and genuinely cares about others. I started a journal about her, keeping track of everything we did and all the details of our adventures. We got to know each other with no pressure and no kissing. It wasn’t until about 3-4 months into this that we were both confused and things started to get awkward. We were at a crossroads. We either had to be forever “friend zoned” or start dating for real. I remember the conversation vividly. I think it was after a ride Jess gave me home from church. She was standing there and the sun was shining behind her and it all made perfect sense. I had a moment of clarity. I was learning to care about Jess and I couldn’t imagine my life without her.
I think we were officially dating for a couple of days and we kissed the first time, during the movie Safe Haven at my house. I quickly realized with lips like hers I needed to lock those down. So we went from dating to exclusive to together in about a week. We became a couple on October 9th 2013. I am glad we were friends first for a few months and waited to kiss. I knew Jess was special from the beginning so I wanted to do things differently than I have ever done in the past. It worked!
One of my favorite times of our entire relationship was when I was helping Jess house sit for our Bishop. We cooked together, took the dog on walks, watched football and movies and it was just us. This is when I fell in love with Jess. The first time I told her ” I love you” was at a special spot by my house after a walk in Sacramento on New Years day. We took our time and enjoyed our courtship together. Instead of coming together as finished products we grew together, overcoming weaknesses together and growing close. We served together as co-chairs of the Welcome Committee in our ward and did church visits together. We started weekly planning sessions and made decisions to try to eat healthy together. One of my favorite activities became our mornings. We started getting up early and going to work out together. We came home after and made a green smoothie eggs and bacon breakfast. I was once a stay up late kind of guy but while dating Jess I saw more sunrises than I ever have in my whole life. Jess sacrificed so much to make this happen. She had to get up at 5 am at her house, drive to my house, then sit in traffic to get back to her house and more traffic on the way to work! She is incredible!
We talked about getting married one night in the summer about a year since we met and it seemed like the natural next step. We overcame many things together and kept getting closer and closer knowing we were working towards something that was beyond us. I wanted to propose but I waited for the perfect timing. I have always been a fan of a long courtship and short engagement. This gave us an opportunity to discover our true selves and grow together. When you plant a seed you know if it’s a good seed if it grows and brings forth fruit. Our relationship became very fruitful over time. Jess makes me happy and I started to progress and change for the better with her support. Weaknesses were becoming strengths. I was now a man of loyalty and commitment and purpose. Lust was all but gone from my life. I was learning how to truly love someone else. It was all very exciting. We got engaged on Feb 22nd at the edge of the Grand Canyon in an isolated lookout straight down with no guard rails called ToroWeep. It was the same spot we had taken a group trip to after we first met, just much more frigid this time around. I brought her out to the edge and gave her the journal of special moments I had recorded. I read her a poem and sang a couple of jingles I made up about us. She said “yes of course” and as we were leaving the snow started falling! It was beautiful and there were many special moments like these. The Lord had a hand in all of this. Everything came together so we could have our perfect moment. Our real journey had only just begun.
Since being engaged our lives have gotten a lot more busy and serious. We are having to make major decisions, including the wedding and where to live and where to work. In the meantime I have been burdened with dental school requirements and licensing exams. I could not be more elated to be marrying my best friend and one true love. We are a team and we are attached at the hip. Jess and I want to create an eternal family. We love the Lord first and then each other. I can’t speak of her and I and not acknowledge the hand of God that brought us together, and it is God that fortifies our relationship daily. Without him we would be lost and who knows if this would actually be happening. With Him we can do all things. I love Him and I love Jess. Thank you for reading our story.
My Mom told me a little while back, “You are easily influenced by those around you…”
At first I was offended. I think of myself as fiercely independent, and very much my own person. However as the months have gone by since then I have become keenly aware of the tremendous impact for good or for bad of the people I choose to let into my life. My Mom was right, and I believe everyone is easily influenced by those who he/she chooses to let into their life. I would like to argue that you are very much a product of your family and the 5 people closest to you, whether positive or negative.
I also believe that there are angels and demons among us. Just as I believe there are heavenly angels who minister to us and forces of Satan without bodies who are allowed to follow us on a day-to-day basis.
Bear with me for a bit and let me get a little personal. For a very long time I was emotionally and spiritually rock solid, and those around me would lean on me for support. I was trying my best to live the gospel and to reach out and help others. People would come to me for direction and I have had some very sacred experiences over the years.
When my life got turned upside down with the Mormon Bachelor debacle, relationship failure, dental school stress and my struggles to be a single adult in an increasingly wicked world, the natural reaction for me was to turn outward. First it was, “How can I numb my pain and make it go away?” After realizing this would only sink me into a deeper hole my desire to regain wholeness and health returned.
Then it became looking inward and upward, “How can I regain my sense of self?”
I had no idea what to do because for years I was the strong one. Now I had no strength left to give. It had been sucked out of me and no one to blame but myself. Once I accepted this and took full responsibility for my broken state I was already on my way to recovery. What I didn’t expect however was the profound impact that certain people would have in my life during my time of struggle. People would seem to appear out of nowhere to lift me up or try to tear me down. What mattered most is who I decided to embrace and who I decided to ignore. I am happy to say that I have embraced the angels in my life and the Lord has provided an amazing network of support. It all started when my sister moved in with me this summer. Her presence daily in my life was uplifting and inspiring. From very early my Family and I called her, “Angel Amy.” She has a sweetness and a spirit about her that is so tender. She was only with me a month but she made such a difference for good in my life.
Another dimension to my support system has been my ward family and friends. I have always considered myself an active member of the church but as a busy single adult I often find myself picking and choosing what to attend and not to attend, mostly based on selfishness. Moving to Scottsdale and joining the YSA ward has been an incredible experience mostly because I have bought into the idea of church service. My Bishop has been an angel in my life who came off the stand in about 2.5 seconds to extend a hand of fellowship and recruit me to the ward my first Sunday. I stayed and I am so glad. He has helped me see that the key to happiness is in helping others. I now serve on the Welcome Committee in the ward and I have been to over a month straight of attending every FHE and Institute. This has not been easy, for years I was doing things “my way” with one foot in and one foot out of my wards. I had to re-prioritize my life completely to be at everything. Things I love doing like flag football or pro-Am basketball leagues had to be set aside. By becoming involved in the ward I now see that I have Angels all around me, people who are trying to live Christ-like lives and who genuinely care about each other. Outside of the ward I have also been blessed by great people who are trying to live the commandments. Friends in and out of the church that I am able to open up to and who are happy when I succeed.
Lastly, I met a beautiful girl in my ward who I serve with as co-chair on the Welcome Committee. Friends for over three months before we started dating exclusively she has been such a light and we have such a solid foundation to build on. I am living day-to-day and it feels so right and comfortable. No matter what happens down the road I feel as though she is a gift and I love trying to make her happy. She is an Angel who lifts me and inspires me. We are very similar and so we set goals together to be better with our weaknesses. It helps that she is very fun to be around with her light-hearted nature and contagious positivity. I am in awe almost daily of who she is and the light she brings into my life.
(Sister on the far left—My girlfriend Jessica next to me)
Through all of these Angels in my life I have seen the face of the Lord. I know that he sent them for me to accept and embrace and to learn from…to pull me out of the pit of despair I was in.
In the scriptures, our loving Heavenly Father often sends angels to comfort his children in periods of extreme distress. Accounts of angelic visitations are everywhere: In the Book of Mormon Nephi and Lehi had prison walls break, fire encircle them and saw angels (Helaman 5:48). Similarly in the Bible, Shadrach, Meshach and Abendego were visited by an angel of God when thrown into the fiery furnace by King Nebuchadnezzer (Daniel 3:13-30).
However of all the angelic accounts the most powerful in my opinion is when Christ was in the Garden of Gethsemane. Even he, the greatest of all, needed help in his darkest hour of grief prior to accomplishing the atonement. He asked his most trusted friends the apostles to stay with him but they slept. While prostrating himself on the ground in the garden, suffering and bleeding from every pore he called out, ” Abba” meaning “Daddy!” In that moment the scriptures record that he was visited by an angel who strengthened him (Luke 22:43).
There have been several instances lately where I have fallen on my knees calling for help from heaven to encounter my day-to-day. Needless to say my prayers were answered and I am writing this blog post today overwhelmed by Heavenly Father’s mercy in sending angels to bear me up in my time of need. If we feel after our Father, he will listen to us and respond. He has promised,
“And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. I will be on your right hand and on your left, and my Sprit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you, to bear you up.” D&C 84:88.
The intense relationship we share with our Heavenly Father is further illustrated by a scripture in the New Testament,
“That they should seek the Lord, if haply they might feel after him, and find him, though he be not far from every one of us: For in him we live, and move, and have our being; as certain also of your own poets have said, For we are also his offspring.” Acts 17: 27-28.
I know that a loving Father will not leave his son alone in times of need. He weeps when we weep, and he will be with us. But we must do our part in calling after him, not just once but persistently seeking him. He does not promise immediate comfort but I know from personal experience that help does come. It may be in the form of family and friends that are already in our lives we just have been too stubborn to listen to their angelic voices. One of these voices is our mother.
We begin life wrapped in the arms of our angel mother. We are safe, protected and watched over. She is our living breathing guardian angel.
As life progresses, other family and friends come into our lives…and pretty soon we are being tossed around person to person. Our mother knows whats best and so she will choose who to let hold her baby. I remember my Mom telling me a story about how when I was very little she let a neighbor friend babysit me for the day and when she came to pick me up I was tied to the crib. Lets just say this parenting style was not what my Mom wanted for her baby. She remembers going home and crying and deciding then and there to not work or put me with babysitters but to stay home and be there for me. I am so glad she takes such good care of me.
As we grow older and start to do things on our own we are subject to the influence of others. My Dad when he would drop me off at high school in the morning would tell me, “Have a great day in the jungle son, remember who you are.” He knew that he was letting me go into a harsh environment where I would be subject to all kinds of influences. This was no longer the bubble world of happiness and peace that my parents had created for me. My parents home remained and still remains a sanctuary from the world, and I am so grateful for this.
What I have realized over time that not only did I need to rely on others to get back on my own two feet, but that I need to surround myself with positivity ALWAYS.
I too often gave people the benefit of the doubt and I would let them into my fragile life only to have them spread negativity and bring me down. It is our nature to want to help others out but all too often these people, if we let them get too close will do us extreme harm. These are the “demons” in our life. When we sin and continue in sin the Holy Ghost leaves and the scriptures say that we become subject to the devil and his influence. In a very real sense we lose our agency to him and we start to harm others, sometimes acting unaware. Those who do not embrace Christ face a sad reality, “And our spirits must have become like unto him, and we become devils, angels to a devil, to be shut out from the presence of our God, and to remain with the father of lies, in misery like unto himself…” 2 Nephi 9:9. It is my firm belief that there are people out there, whether consciously or sub consciously, that have the intent to harm and spread their selfish ways maliciously sucking life out of their victims.
It is so vital that we do not give attention to the demons in our life, seen or unseen. A third of the host of heaven is allowed to roam the earth and tempt and discourage us. We must be constantly be on guard. We may see in others a slight beam of hope for good and for change. However, we cannot change people. They must have their own spiritual awakening through the Spirit of Christ and turn to him. We can invite for good, lift their spirits with words of encouragement and testimony, and keep them at a safe distance. Would you let someone close who would do you harm? Often we choose to give our hearts to the wrong people who seem to constantly hurt us. We let down our guard and pretty soon these people or influences take hold of our life and we are left alone broken and miserable. Misery loves company and if we are not careful we will be dragged down into the mud of misery and sin also (see 2 Nephi 2:27). Demons are intelligent, as is Satan and they are carefully devising your destruction. It is often not an “in your face” type of approach, but subtle. He wraps a flaxen cord around our neck slowly until it’s too late (2 Nephi 26:22).
Satan uses people just as God uses people. Nowhere do I think this more prevalent than in the dating world. If you are like me you see the good in all people and want to help or save others. This is the returned missionary mentality when we come home we want to save the world. Please listen though when I say, this mentality is great and all but it doesn’t mean you need to save your dating partner!!!
In order to save the world you have to save yourself and the only way to do this is to keep Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ as close as possible. Our relationship with them should be so deep and passionate and living that no matter what anyone else does to us we remain unaffected because we can turn to our Heavenly Father for happiness and peace. We should not depend on anyone else for our happiness or expect for them to make us happy. When we do enter into a relationship it should be for the sole purpose of making that other person happy. Whether it is a close friend or a dating relationship or marriage we would do well to remember unselfishness and that you will be happy only as you make the other person happy. Why? because this taps into charity, the true love of Christ which gives unconditionally and never fails. ALL other things fail. People will fail you. We are all imperfect. But you will have abiding love in your life if you keep the attitude of service always.
Some call the dating world the “Dating Game.” Nowhere is Satan’s influence used more subtly than here. Satan would have you believe that the feelings of other people are not relevant because it’s all a game. He spreads his toxic doctrines into the minds of young people relentlessly. Many people are addicted to attention and the ability to attract and conquest the opposite sex. Many pose as though they are looking for a successful happy relationship when in reality they simply want to satisfy their selfish lusts. They want to date “for fun” or whatever else they call it. They want no part in commitment that will require real sacrifice. Both men and women fall victim to this mentality.
Moving from one to the next these people are lost and not acting under the influence of the Holy Ghost. They may rationalize their behavior saying that they are truly looking for love, and they may very well be looking for love eventually but they are going about it the wrong way. When someone is broken or unfulfilled they will move from one person to the next searching for love, or superficially dating many at the same time. These people have become obvious to me through sad experience. Some of them may even be aware of their broken present state and warn you to “run away.” If someone tells you to run away from them you better listen!!!
What those who are dating superficially are not realizing is that the love and healing and what their soul desperately needs is there all along, but its found as we look inward and upward, not outward. If we would simply seek healing and love and fulfillment from Heavenly Father and Christ first then we can go forward in dating with the Holy Spirit as our guide. We will be wise and choose a dating relationship that brings true joy and happiness and peace and that is fueled by love…not toxicity. When we lose the spirit in dating through sin, we are vulnerable to Satan and his toxic poison. We lose love and we turn to lust which is temporary and fleeting and empty. We lose confidence and we choose to let the demons control us. We end up alone and broken and miserable because we did not heed the warnings.
We may even become a demon ourself, looking for others to leech off of or fulfill temporary pleasures. Desperate people living in sin will often use sex to sell themselves to others. Most of the time this is when they believe they have nothing left to offer. It is a pitiful plea for love that is completely misguided. Satan counterfeits the fulfillment of God’s love and positive loving relationships with the temporary high of lust. When we seek out lust we are really just seeking that intimate relationship void. Satan would have you believe there is happiness in sin. But Alma 41:10 “Wickedness NEVER was happiness.” Our souls need the fulfillment the Atonement of Jesus Christ offers, this is the only way to happiness.
So then the real question becomes who we decide to listen to…the angels or the demons in our life. When we are alone do we seek the influence of the spirit and follow the whisperings of the Holy Ghost or our conscience or do we buy in to Satan and the worlds lies. When around others, are we letting in those who would do us harm or are we looking for angels who can guide us to safety?
Thus each day we have an inner battle within our souls. We already know the outcome of who will triumph, we are simply deciding whose jersey to put on. Angels or Demons? When we finally make up our mind to put all evil and worldly pleasures on the altar no matter what, then we are well on our way to safety. What comes next is constant righteous living and enduring to the end, and choosing to stay on the Lord’s team no matter what. If we break a serious commandment, for example, do we side with the Lord and seek out our Bishop or do we side with the demons by hiding our sin and persisting in it.
We must take comfort in the fact that the Lord sends angels. He will fight our battles for us if we give our lives to him. The priesthood power, loving Bishops, words of the Apostles and Prophets, home teachers, family, good friends, church sponsored programs, and much more are all at our disposal if we would use them. All we have to do is sign up for the team and put on the jersey and we will be victorious, regardless of how we perform.
I love the Lord with all my heart and I know that life is not a game but a real battle for souls. Dating is not a game but a real quest for true love and happiness in an eternal union. As we associate with angels, we too will become one. We will choose to serve Christ and help to build His Kingdom prior to the Second Coming. He will come surrounded by angels. Many of us may be lifted up to meet him in the clouds as well.
May we all embrace the angels and ignore the demons and live what we know to be true is my prayer. In the name of jesus Christ, Amen.
The following is a great reference to Angels, from an apostle of the Lord Jesus Christ.