Finals happened. Spring Break happened… and then my own extended spring break happened. And then my post extended spring break party happened. SO if you haven’t heard from me in awhile that’s why.
Time away from life at school and the routine or as some say “real life” has been complete therapy. Healing is a process… yet I think a vacation can accelerate that process. Our minds need a healthy balance of relaxation.
To kick the vacation off…the same day I finished finals I started driving through the night to Texas. Every cowboy crossing Texas needs a partner, and that was my friend Doug Kroll. We met out here in AZ playing flag football. He told me to run 75 yards down the field and then hit me in stride. He played baseball at Oklahoma State and so he has an arm and a half…on just his right side. Don’t worry ladies there are more pictures to come… 🙂
The 18 hour drive through the night to Texas was gnarly. We stayed at my sisters house in Belton and got some good Texas BBQ. I got to see my new baby niece Nora Jane Taylor (a couple months) and party with family. Carmen is my sisters other little one and she is such a doll. Being around Jill and her husband Mike and their family gives me great perspective. It only reaffirms my desire to meet someone special, fall in love and start a family. I want kids and I want to be a young Dad…why? not because its time, because I’m getting older, i want to finally have sex or just to obey a commandment. I want it because I want the greatest happiness that is available to us in this life. Its only found in righteous family sealed under temple marriage for eternity. I am convinced of that. I see it in my Sister and Brother in Law and I want it.
Doug with Carmen, Me and Carmen
(above) My Sister jill and her husband Michael and family!!
From there it was on to Galveston Texas and a 7 day Caribbean cruise. Stops in Cozumel, Cayman Islands and Jamaica.
(above) Cayman Islands stingray city…this was the stingrays way of letting me know he had no teeth only gums…just needed some periodontal work
In Jamaica they say… “There are no problems man…only situations!!!” I love that motto so much.
I had experience after experience on the cruise that allowed me to relax and realize that life is a journey that I want to enjoy. I want a long term plan yes but to live in the moment and build meaningful friendships that last is the best way to live…
We were on the cruise with 20 or so single adults from Arizona and I got to know some of them really well. To see my classmates or people in the ward in the layed back atmosphere brought down walls that were normally always there. A lot of misperceptions I had about people I knew were thrown away. We all have seeds of divinity within us and we can all develop all aspects of our lives to become extraordinary people.
I would consider all 20 people on that cruise incredible, each with different talents. Some of us got the chance to try out to be singers and dancers in the final show of the cruise! Heidi Webster stole my heart singing Shania Twain, JenMcClelland taught me how to Tango, and my roomate Brian Bear stole the show with his Micheal Jackson routine!
This was definitely out of my element but so much fun!!!
I think we would all do well when we meet people to talk to them genuinely and really get to know them otherwise we will be missing out.
My buddy Doug Kroll is the best at being genuine. He would disappear for a couple hours on the cruise ship and then I would find him chatting it up with some 55 year old trucker from Louisiana in the hot tub.
If our hearts are filled with love and charity towards ALL people (2 Nephi 31:20)…then I believe that will serve us well (Moroni 7:47). You will like others and they will like you and we will all get along.
I had lunch recently with an old high school friend named Tom Leach in Los Angeles. At the young age of 26 he is already extremely successful. He is the vice president of Mark Burnett productions. They do the reality shows survivor, shark tank, the voice, etc. He is living his dream job which is that he gets to walk into multi millionaires and even billionaires and pitch new reality tv show ideas. Anyway neat for him but your probably wonder why I am telling you this. No don’t worry I am not going to have him get me on the newest season of “The Bachelorette.” phew. What I want to say about Tom is that he is one of the most sincere genuine people I have ever met and there is a reason why he is where he is. He makes you feel like a million bucks no matter who you are and he has a way with words. He elevated himself up the corporate Hollywood latter in a couple of years simply because he is a likable sincere guy. Just the fact that he would have lunch with us says a lot about his character. He was with Cindy Crawford for lunch the day before.
I believe we can all be better at being genuine and giving others a real chance. Obviously for those of us that are dating we have to be picky but that doesn’t mean we have to be rude. We all too easily get caught up in stereotypes and refuse to give others a chance. We may miss out on some pretty awesome people and be missing the charity boat. I myself stereotype and I am working on giving others a real chance first. (I mean c’mon there may be a decent old woman Asian driver out there! (jk) ).
The process works both ways, I stereotype and I get stereotyped. I am the stuck up, dumb jock, preppy Mormon Dentists and Bishops son who has been spoiled and never had to work hard right??? haha
Even you, yes YOU who are reading this blog you get stereotyped right along with me whatever yours is…but just because the stereotype is upon us does not mean we need to live within their confines. I have made it a personal quest to live to prove the haters wrong. become legendary and with each day and the way you live your life you can ignore what people say. Instead of caving to the mold society has set for you you can instead decide to live each day constantly trying to improve and better yourself and the world around you.
Eliminating stereotypes is hard but if we look on the heart we should give others a chance, and then another chance and another. A true follower of Christ will forgive and forget and move on.
Don’t get me wrong though I am not talking about those you choose to hang out or date …those relationships take some deeper personal judgement because it affects you so much more than people you casually meet, acquaintances or strangers.
It is also important to be able to take criticism from those around you. If something is going wrong all we can do is do a self analysis, acknowledge fault and move on. Everyday of our lives should be a polishing and refining process to improve. This is not easy because lots of people are way too comfortable being stagnant. They would rather lay at the bottom of the see than have to grow through the polishing to become a pearl. In order to be a pearl you have to be open and vulnerable to those close and also the world around you.
That is one of the reasons I am so open about my life on this blog. I know that not everyone will agree with my experience and opinions but I have gotten some very deep positive feedback that something I said helped someone else. At the end of the day thats all that matters. All of the surface criticism or if someone decides to judge me for what I say on here than that is their own problem. I will listen to their opinions, improve where necessary and move on.
I modified some of what I said in my Provo dating post because some people help me see that what I said could be taken the wrong way and was taken the wrong way by a few people. That is why i love being public with my life, people around me help me improve.
Anyway enough of rambling on my soapbox…
Here are some more pics of the cruise…
Tulum Beach. Mexico (above) Gotta love Doug and I’s ridiculous model poses
The cruise crew (below)
Cayman islands Stingray City
What an incredible spring break I had. The drive home was long but we stopped at the Alamo in san Antonio and that made it even longer. So worth it though Doug and I got to reminisce of the days we used to watch Davy Crocket over and over and sing the theme song.
The following weekend I had an extended spring break in Los Angeles for the weekend. California is my favorite place on this earth.
Venice Beach where they filmed White Men Cant Jump ( I had to prove the stereo type wrong)
Yoga time on Huntington Beach
Then after a day of class I decided to drive the 3hours across the border to Rocky Point. Abunch of my friends from Utah were down for a couple days and we played hour after hour of beach volleyball.
Doug and I at our favorite Burrito spot called Burros downtown Rocky Point
And so now it is back to real life…or is it real life? We all go about our business in such a hurry. We would all do well to take a vacation, find ourselves, and then come back and have a healthy balance of relaxation and fun mixed with hard work. We can take time out of work or school days to get to know someone new…to let down walls, eliminate stereotypes, have genuine conversations with those around us, and then ultimately to help and serve each other and live how the Savior taught: CHARITY and PURE LOVE.